Life Coaching Fundamentals

The 7 Fundamental Pillars of Life Coaching

Life Coaching and Coaching in general are very broad terms, very big picture! They work well enough as a title but very much need specificity and detail to work equally well as a process.

Here at Life Training Systems we believe that there are 7 Fundamental Pillars, these are sequential points of progress that are design to systemise and support the process of life coaching.

It’s all about order and sequence if you want to get truly amazing results.

Life Coaching Fundamentals

Here are the 7 Pillars for effective life coaching….. 

Respect and Protect – Respect their model of the world and Protect their core identity.

Structure and Reality – Develop for yourself and them a finite sensory based understanding and clarity.

Responsibility and Perspective – Loosen up the vice like grip that they have on their current reality and introduce new possibilities and a supportive perspective.

Source Pattern Reset – Release and reprogram all past negative emotional associations and limitations.

Synthesise and Re-Integrate – Combine and integrate conflicting parts and elements to create a positive, balanced, effective and functioning form.

Resource and Persuade – Influence a new aligned focus and awareness with full access to positive resourceful states and strategies that support, nurture and grow.

Support – Project – Results – Ongoing collaboration, mentoring and guidance for effective application and utilisation to maintain focus and actions that will ultimately project into reality their desired results and outcomes.

The 7 Fundamental Pillars of Life Coaching Made Clear

Respect and Protect – Respect their model of the world and Protect their core identity.

When someone has a problem, no matter how debilitating, limiting, illogical or illusionary it may appear to you or the world around them, we must always respect that it is incredibly visceral and real to them!

It is the life that they have unconsciously created and it had a contextually relevant positive purpose at the time of it’s creation.

We must also only guide them to accessing congruent and aligned internal positive resources that are a fit for their core values and beliefs as to support and sustain their true identity and personality.

A person will simply not actualise through life coaching or any other therapeutic modality that which is not aligned to their neurologically imprinted unconscious values and beliefs.

Structure and Reality – Develop for yourself and them a finite sensory based understanding and clarity.

Everyone has an intricate neurological network of conscious and unconscious experiences that are being used as a model through which they can engage with the world and define meaning from the feedback generated through their actions, interactions, reactions, behaviours and results.

When the structure of this model is negatively skewed then the reality it will produce will also be skewed in a similarly negative way.

This is the basis of perception is projection from Jungian Psychology or as is written in the bible “seek and ye shall indeed jolly well find”.

It is our job as a life coach to fully understand the structure that is the basis of their current reality and to help the client to begin to get clear on their deeply unconscious unfulfilled needs that have been responsible for their current situation in life.

We MUST NOT begin to shake up or loosening the grasp they have on their model of their world until we truly understand it!

Change can only be effective if you first have all the pieces of the puzzle, it is this meta detail that will give the change work that we will do the precision that it requires.

Responsibility and Perspective – Loosen up the vice like grip that they have on their current reality and introduce new possibilities and a supportive perspective.

In the process of creating change and to free up the wisdom that has been held in trust for an individual from all of their positive and negative life experiences and personal history, we have to first guide them to a place of responsibility.

Responsibility for all the good things and an equal responsibility for all of the bad things.

In life it doesn’t make logical sense to take the credit of authorship and creation for only the good stuff whilst claiming the bad stuff was done by a big boy that ran away!

If you feel the universe is doing it to you then their will be nothing for you to learn, no control you can take, no alterations to your behaviours, perspective, engagement and actions.

You will continue to do it the same old way getting the same old results. The words “head” and “brick wall” spring to mind.

It is our job through this life coaching process to, at this point, help them realise that the life they created, the life they are living is merely an illusion, a construct of their own making which they have compounded and invested in for how ever long the problem has sustained.

Without responsibility a person can only live life by default, we would much rather coach them to a place where their perspective can easily support them to create their life by design.

Source Pattern Reset – Release and reprogram all past negative emotional associations and limitations.

Every neurological pattern positive or negative has a source, a point of creation, where a conscious or unconscious experience can pattern in a set of complex neurological connections that when triggered will run to a particular state or a linked cocktail of emotional states that will then influence behaviours and actions.

In understanding and bringing into the consciousness the negative unsupportive patterns, we can then use the Source Pattern Reset technique to gain access to positive learnings and wisdom that were also held at the time within the experience, but the perspective and meaning they attributed to the experience did allow them to notice at the time but now they can.

Some of your most valuable learnings will have come from mistakes and negative experiences. The natural order of things is that we take a wisdom from the experience and apply that wisdom thereafter to our actions. You would hopefully only stick your finger in the fire once!

When you have wisdom to apply to your future actions then there is no longer any need for negative emotional associations to serve as warning or keep you safe.

Synthesise and Re-Integrate – Combine and integrate conflicting parts and elements to create a positive, balanced, effective and functioning form.

People who are struggling with limitations, with ongoing or recurring issues and problems in there life, can be heavily conflicted. This is not a 100% congruent negative belief about themselves, it is incongruent conflicting part time belief that is sometimes there and sometimes not.

This can create an exhausting internal struggle that can be even more frustrating than other congruent and accepted limitations and negative associations.

Everything that functions for us at the unconscious level is at it’s route, innately positive, it does believe it or not, have a high level positive intent for our safety and wellbeing. An intent that originally caused it to be created in the first place and over time maintained.

When this conflict comes into consciousness and begins to make it presence more acutely felt as, maybe a frustration or limitation, it’s because the person has outgrown the need for it and it is time for this part to be re-integrated back into the neurology creating a sense of psychological and emotional wholeness.

Resource and Persuade – Influence a new aligned focus and awareness with full access to positive resourceful states and strategies that support, nurture and grow.

All coaching and life coaching is sales, we are their to influence and persuade! As the life coach you are acting as a guide and the more persuasive that you are, the quicker and more effective your coaching will be.

It’s our job to help our clients to see and accept the illusion of the life that they had and then help them to permanently gain access to positive resources, concepts and wisdom that’s been held within them that will now support them in being the way that they want.

And we do this easily and elegantly through our preferred effective therapeutic models for life coaching along with a projected sage like wisdom sharing metaphor, pre-framing, re-framing and linguistic resourcing.

This resourcing is designed to fully compliment our preferred therapeutic model and to subliminally work deep within the clients neurology, gaining profound unconscious agreement and acceptance.

Support – Project – Results – Ongoing collaboration, mentoring and guidance for effective application and utilisation to maintain focus and actions that will ultimately project into reality their desired results and outcomes.

When someone ventures into a mystical and magical new world, it is not surprising that there will be a strangeness to it and that odd feeling can be disconcerting even hard to understand.

This transition will be short lived when you as the expert are there to guide and give additional advice, helping with positive interpretation of all of the new feedback.

This is essential to stabilise and compound the positive changes that your life coaching has helped to facilitate.

This assists the client to begin to gather their own new experiences, different actions and reactions that are happening in real time, convincing them of their new way of being.

Proving to them categorically that they now feel different!

Creating for themselves new positive internal and external feedback as to their focused way of thinking, capable of easily taking the actions that will begin to deliver the results that in the past they had only hoped, dreamed and wished for.

Actively supporting them only as long as it takes for them to find their own balance and for you both to know the training wheels are of for good and they are now fully capable and engaged in their lives new adventure.

FREE: Life Coaching Foundational Skills Diploma, trainings are available though places are limited.

This 2 day weekend Training held in Woking Surrey is designed to give you a comprehensive introduction to the highly effective skills and best practice process of being a coach or a life coach.

There are several weekends available, call Colin on 01794 279 184 or email life@lifetrainingsystems.com for more details and to book yourself a place before they are all gone.